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Vision Boards May Be A Window to the Subconscious

Over the weekend, I sat down with a friend. We had wine, we caught up and we made vision boards.

My friend had already started one and it seemed like she could never finish it, and well, it was time for me to make a new one.

Hers was filled with images and words dealing with marriage and babies.

Mine said absolutely nothing about marriage or babies, or rings or wedding dresses. My board seemed to be more about self-esteem, encouragement, fitness, travel and me starting grad school next month. I did mention love and faith and spirituality, but nope. Nothing concrete about relationships. Which is odd, because it’s a prevailing thought in my mind, day in and day out.

So once we pointed out those differences in our boards, I went back to my house that night thinking, dang, I want love. So what’s up with that? Maybe I should be MORE specific.

Maybe I should devote a vision board strictly to love and relationships.

So Sunday, I put on some music, broke out the art supplies and old magazines and I got to work.

The border of my vision board, I wrote all kinds of words that I think are crucial to a happy, healthy, mutually beneficial relationship.

It seemed like I focused on the concepts of partnership, trust, honesty, courage, friendship, having fun together, traveling, trying new things, passion, respect.

I finished my very nice-looking board, and once again. No marriage, no mention of the m-word. No babies. I only used the words family and home. I cut out no photos of brides or babies or dresses or rings or flowers.

I did cut out a photo of a man and woman kissing and the woman was wearing a ring. The only other images I cut out were of a couple relaxing and sleeping together cuddled up in a hammock and another couple on a beautiful island, having a special, romantic dinner.

So after I finished, I looked at this board again surprised at my choices.

I don’t think it was conscious. I strictly wrote down things I felt, things that were most important to me and I cut out words and images that spoke to me, so that’s what made this exercise even more eye-opening.

What can I take away from this?

Do I want to be married? Ever?

Yes, I think I do eventually, but not now. I clearly need to feel completely secure in my next relationship and my focus is on building, building, building, feeling safe, feeling loved, feeling appreciated. I put down all of the things I knew I needed. And maybe in the past I hadn’t taken the time to really, really delve into the things I needed. I just hoped the person I was with could give me those things whether they could or couldn’t and I went along with the program. Maybe in the past I didn’t know all of the things I really needed.

Do I want kids? Ever?

If you’ve read my blog, you know I’m on the fence about having children. So it’s still a big question mark.

I’ve been telling a lot of my friends about the vision boards, and they’ve all been very interested and asking me how to do it. So here we go. There’s a number of ways you can go about it.

When I was working on my tee-shirt company and preparing for the GRE those were goal-specific.

I put down goals, and even deadlines for those goals. And I’d cross things I completed off. I’d paste words and pictures that were related and inspired me.

The boards I made this weekend were general. But I do think that the more specific your board, the more you can analyze it and drill down what you need to do in order to accomplish whatever your vision is. My general board showed me that I really want to be more physically fit, I want to do well in school and I want to travel and I want to be happy and feel good about myself.

The love board showed me a lot about myself and what I expect from a partner, which in turn might be a great thing to share with a guy who may actually have a chance. That board can serve as a reminder if any man I’m dealing with is lacking in certain areas, then I can articulate what I want and need.

So my suggestion is, for whatever kind of board you make, break out old magazines, glue, stickers all of that good stuff. Be relaxed and comfortable and devote some time to it. Don’t rush. I may have worked on my boards for two or three hours. If you don’t finish in one sitting, that’s okay too. I prefer finishing it so I can take a good look at it.

My friend made positive, affirming sentences out of some of the words and phrases she cut out. That’s also a good idea. The point is to pick out things that really stick out to you. I like taking things from magazines because you can’t predetermine what folks put in the magazine. What you see and how you apply it to your vision will be very unique to you and you’ll cut out certain words and certain images because it says something to you that someone else may not see.

So hey, if any of you make a vision board, please let me know how it goes and if you see something in it that you didn’t expect. This was really enlightening and it was a lot of fun and relaxing.

 

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Vision, New Glasses, New Vision Board…Theme Here?

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For some reason, in my conscience, in my psyche, the word and concept of VISION keeps coming back to me in literal and metaphorical ways.

I decided to get on the good foot and get my eyes examined and some new specs because my flexible spending account money will poof in thin air, once the new company’s insurance takes over. Yes, I took out an FSA so I can buy Versace frames. If I’m going to wear glasses everyday, they need to be on point. I’ve finally graduated from Anne Klein! My last several pairs have been AK’s and I love that brand, but this time around, I wanted more luxury. I craved it. I needed it to boost my self-esteem.

I look smarter. I swear.

Well, good news, the very hot eye doctor told me that my eye sight was indeed a smidge better and that I could take on a weaker prescription. He said try it out for a week, and if it doesn’t feel quite right, I could go back to my old prescription.

I was just thrilled he told me my eyes weren’t worse. He said my eyesight and prescription was perfect considering I stare at a computer all day long.

Hurrah.

So this weekend, I thought it was a good idea to draft a new vision board. I mean, I’m seeing more clearly now, literally! Why not go a bit deeper?

But instead of it being about the business (three vision boards later and I’ve reached every goal), I thought about just doing one for my general life.

It seemed like it was working really well for the business, so maybe it will transfer over if I apply the idea to my life.

So, I wrote down on my vision board that I want to participate in a 5k. I signed up for the glo run at the end of October.

Then I wrote I want to participate in a half marathon in April.

I wrote I wanted to lose 20 pounds. First goal 10 pounds by Nov 1.

Then I wrote that I want to fully love and understand myself.

I wrote I want to be closer to God.

I wrote the attributes of the type of man I want to be in a relationship with.

I wrote about the kind of job/career I want. I want it to blend my talents in journalism/technology/and advocacy. I want to be paid fairly, and feel like I’m helping to make a difference and have a real, genuine passion for the goals of where I’m working.

I wrote about new goals for the business.

Then I wrote that I wanted to go on vacation– a great vacation twice a year, every year.

I wrote that I wanted to travel internationally.

After all that writing, I didn’t get to cut out as many corresponding pictures as I wanted to, I’ll save that for another day.

But it’s done.

The new vision board for my personal and professional life.

Let’s see how it goes.

As for action plans regarding my healthier lifestyle and weight loss, my accountability partner Rose (a supportive reader and Twitter friend, whom I’ve never met in real life! This blog is amazing!), has been kind enough to encourage me in my weight loss journey, and at her suggestion, I signed up for my fitness pal.

This should be interesting. I’m already mad that the food I’ve calculated for the day was a bit too much and I have like only a few calories for dinner. Boo. Gotta work harder at Zumba tonight to earn my grub.

May the visions come together. Let’s go!

Say It, Write It, Do it. The Power of Writing Things Down

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A lot of people resolve to do big things by 30.

I think next year is going to be awesome, just off of the sheer fact that I am preparing to launch a business and I’ve been taking classes to help me prepare.

But that big thing aside, one thing I keep hearing in my class and in my research about business leader is be organized and write stuff down. That’s two things, and they actually tell you to write stuff down first so you can actually be organized.

Even the Bible gives this sound advice in one of its lesser known and hard to pronounce book of Habakkuk. And the LORD answered me: “Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it.

It’s a simple thing, but people don’t do it enough. It has to go beyond a sticky note on your computer and the grocery list (budget experts say, this helps you not overspend if you stick strictly to the list while shopping).

I’ve been writing a lot of things down lately. When I get new ideas for my business no matter how big, small or delusional and I also write down ideas for my job as soon as I get them. I’ve learned to listen to myself and to not wait until morning. It doesn’t take that long to write it down and It’s the worst knowing you had a great idea and didn’t write it down as soon as it came to you. What you may or may not remember is totally not as good as the original thought. Train yourself not to be lazy by doing this.

Going back to the vision thing, I did actually do a vision board for my company recently, and things are going well in terms of the planning. It really does help. At a recent marketing event I attended one of the speakers said to actually go to magazines and cut out pictures of people who fit in your target demographic. Give them names and jobs and favorite stores and restaurants. I did that, and I instantly came up with more ideas for more products and services I want to provide.

Most recently, I even wrote a press release for my launch. I’m not ready to lauch yet I’m still quite a few months away, but seeing it in print is amazing motivation and when I read it, I’m kind of impressed with myself, my mission and what I’m about to actually pull off when the time comes.

I leave you with a blog that breaks down 7 Powerful Reasons Why You Should Write Things Down. I may print it out and tape it to my fridge.

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