As you hit your latter 20s, you reflect on a lot of decisions you made over the last decade. Sometimes, the consequences of those decisions stick with you far longer than you thought. For me, it was a ridiculous credit card bill (that took about five years to pay off completely), and ignoring the U.S. Department of Education for about two years when they said they wanted their money back three months after graduation.
For one of my girls, her decision was far more permanent and much more visible in a cocktail dress.
It’s a tattoo.
I get a text from her last night saying she’s found a place to perform the procedure and she is having it removed.
“I mean, who puts a bumper sticker on a Bentley?” she asked.
Remembering the day she and another one of our friends got tats, I smiled and I asked her why. I pretty much knew what she would say, but I still wanted to hear her say it anyway. This was also instant blog fodder.
“I was 18 and stupid and I think it’s kind of ghetto and I don’t want it in my wedding pics.”
She’s not about to get married right now, nor is she in a relationship by the way, but I get her point. In general, she’s a professional woman who is often going to galas for her job, where in this case, that tat, and her teenage judgement would be exposed in front of her colleagues and subordinates.
Even if she didn’t hold the position she holds, I think this is all a part of the self inventory that tends to take place as we edge nearer to 30. She doesn’t want to be looked at in a certain light because of something she thought was cool at 18.
Don’t get me wrong. I know a lot of brilliant people with tats, and of the professional ones who decided to get them even after those rebellious years, they strategically decided to make sure they were in places where people couldn’t see during the 9 to 5. However, I do believe there is a double standard for women with tattoos though, and that they may be seen as unsophisticated, or wild.
I was the chicken of the group. I managed not to get tats or belly rings when my friends did en masse. The only thing I did get was a piercing at the top of my ear. Funny thing is I rarely even wear it these days. It’s still cool though!
What are some of the mistakes from your teenage years or early 20’s that you find yourself still having to live with today?