Introducing “The Candidate”
Ok. Here we go. Still getting over the whole debacle with Officer Cutie, I went back to Plenty of Fish with vigor.
A couple of cuties hit me up, but they are starting to drop like flies. One guy was a firefighter who moonlit as a manager for a female rap artist. He sent me a link to her music video and I will say, she is telling her truth. But I’m not interested in songs about women running drugs for their men and watching her do that and kill him at the end. She could be a raging success if they ever made a Love and Hip Hop DC.
He was a bit much. I knew after a while this guy would go the way of Lancelot because he also had no filter. So once the convo died down, I think we don’t need to resume it.
Another guy was really cute. He wants to go to college and study journalism, God bless him. He seems really nice and after four years of being single, he is very ready for a relationship. He needs to stay in the yellow light lane.
But I enjoyed his convo, he’s good-looking and has a nice sense of style, but I get the sense because he wants to do what I’ve been doing for ten years, he’s going to end up feeling more like a mentee than a boyfriend.
But let’s get to the most interesting point of my night on POF last night.
I saw a pic of a really handsome guy. But I said to myself, he looks so familiar. I just couldn’t figure it out. It was driving me nuts. I knew that I knew him but just couldn’t think of where.
So straight up, I sent him a message saying that I thought I knew him and the two places I thought I may have known him from.
So he smiled and said one of the two (well email smile).
So I said, I feel horrible for not remembering, but if you are who I think you are, it can’t be right. This guy moved down here for his girl, and if he’s on POF, that’s foul. LOL.
So then, I looked at his user name. Spelled it out backwards and it was his REAL NAME.
I knew who this guy was. So I told him. Your user name is your name backwards. I totally know you. LOL.
Well, I totally knew who he was at that point because he was fine as hell and I interviewed him for a position on my team at work.
We offered him the gig, but after stringing us along for a week (he had other offers I heard through the grapevine) he turned us down.
Oh well not a biggie.
So he was still trying to remember me and then I said, well you actually interviewed at my job, strung us along and rejected the offer. I really wish you had been up front about the other offers. I said there’s no hard feelings. You were overqualified anyway. 🙂
So then he said he interviewed at a lot of places and finally remembered and asked me my name.
Then he said “to your other point, we broke up months ago. A friend told me about this site.”
So with my foot planted firmly in my mouth, I decided to give a little. “Hey, I understand about moving for love. I almost did it like three years ago. We were engaged and it didn’t work out. I really meant no disrespect, it was a joke. But I’m really sorry.”
So he laughed and said it was cool. So I give him points for still asking me out. Some men could have taken what I said really personally and went off on me.
Then came the kicker.
“So since we met randomly on here, there isn’t a reason why we can’t go out right?”
“Um, I guess not. I mean you didn’t take the gig, so no HR drama. Sure.”
And here we go.
Introducing The Candidate.
I feel okay about this because I already know his resume. I know he didn’t send a fake pic, and I know people who know him. I was already attracted when he showed up for the interview. I was actually relieved he didn’t take the job, because I would have had to stay calm and cool everyday.
But reasons why I feel some kind of way. He’s in the same industry as me, which can be a good and bad thing we know some of the same people, which can be a good and bad thing. I said I would not date someone in the same industry again (Oh Katherine Woodward Thomas and saying what I won’t do).
And the super biggie is, is a few months out post breakup, post moving for his woman. To make that kind of move meant they were serious and probably put some time in. So there’s a part of me that feels like I could be on some rebound tip and easy to date and discard since he didn’t have to vet me from the site. So those are the things in the back of my head.
I am willing to go out and hang, because hey, I’m down to see what happens. I’m taking a risk.