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Personal Annual Review: DO IT!

This post is going to be short and sweet.

I saw this post about conducting your own personal annual review like two weeks ago and I just loved it. I posted it on my Facebook page and folks were feeling it. So

I want to give this as a gift to you all.

As with most of the gifts I gave this year, I wanted this for myself too!

We are about to go into a new year and folks love to reflect and think about how they are going to get their ish together for real for real in 2013.

I think this is a practical, real way to get down your thoughts and really attack the things you need to get together in your life. I love how it was presented.

So check it out. Let me know what you think. If you are going to try it out, etc.

http://chrisguillebeau.com/3×5/how-to-conduct-your-own-annual-review/

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Impromptu Poetry: Lunch-Inspired Mack

Say baby,

I want to be your sweet potato casserole.

See, you don’t have to look no further cuz I can do it all.

I’m sweet, I have flavor and I’ll fill you up.

I’m not sweating the competition because, truth be told, I can be your side dish and your desert.

Look no further. Some nights you can sweeten me up. Adorn me in sugar and cinnamon. Warm me up and you’ll swear you’ve just made love.

Other nights, I know you’ll crave my essence so badly, you’ll have me raw and I’ll still satisfy.

See boy, you don’t even know what to do with me.

The options are endless.

I’m wrapped in mystery. I’m a peel and preparation away from pure delight.

Folks still trying to define me. I kind of laugh. I’m used to it by now.

Am I a vegetable? Am I a starch?

Either way, sugar, you need me in your life.

I’m an anomaly, A complex piece to the pyramid.

I can’t be confined and defined to fit into some group…

Am I a sweet potato or a yam?

It doesn’t matter.

As long as I know what I (y)am.

And I’m yours.

Whatever It Is You Want…

A co-worker of mine told me this morning that she prays that I get whatever it is I want.

I’m pretty sure she’s particularly alluding to a new job/career that will make me insanely happy and feel fulfilled. That is something I want.

I’m still waiting on my fate on that end…

I replied that I appreciated that prayer, and that my prayer for myself is if I get what I want, I’ll still want it when I’ve got it.

As we all know, sometimes what we think we want is not at all what we thought it would be once we’ve gotten it and then we think we are stuck with it.

I’m still figuring out what I want and what I don’t want. I think that’s a good thing.

We should all be revising this list all of the time, because that means we are growing and we should be continuously growing and we should be able to look back and see our growth.

I have been thinking a lot about 2012. I’m sure you all have been too, or if you haven’t, you’ll be thinking about it more.

It’s been an interesting year. I decided to go natural and shocked myself by actually liking it. And I finally really for real let go of my ex-fiance, and I shocked myself by not feeling guilty about it because of all of his problems and his dependence on me.

I opened myself up to online dating, had some serious disasters, but ended up meeting someone refreshing, smart, considerate and kind who may mess around and have a major role in my 2013.

I talked to God a lot more in 2012. And in a real, honest way. Like, I started being a lot less formal, and really talked to him like he was a close friend.

What do I want?

I want to be happy, I want to continue to be grateful for my life and the family and friends in it. I want to feel like I’m contributing to others in a positive way. I want to be bigger than me. Meaning, less selfish, more giving. I want the love in my life in all it’s manifestations between me and the people in my life to be real, to be lasting. I want good health and a sound mind for myself and my loved ones. And I’ve included this in my prayers recently, “God, there is someone who I may not know at all who is crying out to you, who really needs you, who really wants you to do something major in their life, who is about to give up. They might pray every day, or this is their first prayer ever. If nothing else, please let that person know you are listening. Will them to not give up.”

I hope you all really want what you want, and will be satisfied and happy when you get it, for the remainder of this year and going into the next.

Holiday Crashers and Holiday Haters

Oh folks. It’s that time of year once again.

If you are blessed to have a gig, many of you are about to go to your office holiday shin dig.

The big willies will come down from their ivory towers to kick it with the worker Whos, who will try to imbibe as much free alcohol and eat as much free grub as they possibly can handle. After all, we deserve it. It’s the least they can do right?

Then the super ambitious folks, will take turns trying to find something of substance to say to the important folks, who will forget who they are on the ride home back to the Emerald City office.

LOL. I know I’m mixing so many stories and references. I’m amused, aren’t you?

Anyway, I’m no different. My company shelled out a decent amount of dough to ring in the holiday season at a local nice hotel/conference center.

There were a number of things I peeped at the party that was just fascinating to me.

One person in management had a super come up this year, while basically everyone else suffered.

And he showed it. And we all noticed it.

Homeboy strolled in fresh out of the Joseph A. Banks winter collection. I swear I heard Outkast’s “So Fresh and So Clean” when he hit the room.

With a large glass of cab in my hand, I said what everyone was thinking, “Oooh somebody’s brand new…”

So he gets the 2012 NeNe Leaks come up award. Congrats.

I’d like to give the Psy International Infiltration award to the Asian lady who just randomly crashed our holiday party and did not give a good gosh darn and made herself a plate, sat down, smiled a lot and pretended to be lost and unable to understand English.

She was from another event down the hall, and the organization holding it is quite international and quite medical. She knew some damn English. She came during the mingle wine and beer hour, and returned yet again when the buffet was on and then helped herself to some dessert and coffee.

I fell out. She was so gangsta, I could not be mad at her. I mean she really acted like she was supposed to be there. Man, I need her level of guts. I enjoyed her immensely. I strive to be like her in 2013. That level of don’tgiveadamnness is legendary.

Really.

Ok, so finally, let’s get to the more grinchly matters.

There’s a girl at work who is friends with a former friend. I’ve written about this former friend before and I think I’ve written about how this co-worker obviously hates me now due towhatever this former friend has said about me.

And this is how this chick was looking at me the whole party. Photo credit: MTV.com

And this is how this chick was looking at me the whole party. Photo credit: MTV.com

Like, I think this woman thinks I am personally responsible for H1N1, athlete’s foot, cramps, and death. We ended up sitting at the same large table at the party. She ignored me, which takes skill and concentration only sitting one person away. And hey, I’m not going to go out of my way to hate you equally when you are working so hard to dislike me. So I left her alone. She wouldn’t even get involved in general table conversation if I was speaking. The looks, just everything was too much.

The good news is, she’s relocating to another state and I’ve been working from home, so we don’t see each other that much anyway. But from the eye darts this woman has been throwing me, you’d think I’d slept with her husband and played a video with director’s commentary, sitting on his lap, playing with his hair at the holiday party.

So it leads me to wonder, what the hell did my ex friend tell this woman I did to her?

It doesn’t matter. God don’t like ugly. In fact, my homie God made it so that I won a $100 gift card to Best Buy!


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The whole table cheered and congratulated. The disgruntled co-worker, not so much.

Can’t steal my joy, I’m about to put $100 on a new laptop!!! Whoo hoo! Praise sweet baby Jesus!

I’ve decided not to give it any more energy, but it cracks me up how folks can decide to dislike someone who they were generally cool with and pleasant to and then suddenly act like this person was the first person to introduce rappers to skinny jeans. I’d hate them too, but that person deserves the kind of venom ol girl was serving up more than me. So once again this ex friend is a jerk, and has solidified that my life is loads better without her being in it. That kind of foolishness is annoying. Lord I’m glad I have mature, awesome friends in my life who don’t have that kind of time. Thank you again, sweet baby and grown Jesus.

It was like just the sound of my voice was grating on her last nerve. Once again, immature to hate someone by proxy, especially if they’ve done nothing to you and was always nice and polite to you.

So there you have it…

Speaking of office holiday parties, New Guy invited me to his… Yes, I’m blushing and smiling. Looks like things are moving along nicely… stay tuned.

There was a really funny do’s and don’ts list for holiday office parties that I saw earlier this week and now I can’t remember where to look. I wanted to share! I’ll have to add it later.

Have a great time this season, don’t lose your job!

I’ve Always Depended on the Kindness of…Women

It’s been an interesting month.

It’s been in my spirit for a while now to just be encouraging to people. Track down old friends and tell them I love them, and tell new friends I think they are fantastic.

I’ve had so many great women influence me in my life and I just wanted to pay it forward. You don’t know what that encouraging word will do for someone on that particular day. Sometimes it’s exactly what they need to hear. People often need to be affirmed and they are looking for a sign, and you could be that unexpected push to help them that particular day.

But the more I’ve been reaching out to ladies in my life who I love and admire and who just make me so proud, they’ve been giving back to me.

They have been making me feel good and special and blessed.

It’s amazing how even taking time out to have game night with some girlfriends can help you relax and bring out smiles.

My friend who had the stroke earlier this year was in attendance and she looked just gorgeous. She is the resident makeup and hair queen of our group, and I told her that I felt bad we were just staying in because she looked so flawless. We really needed to be out in the streets.

We had a fun time playing board games, and we ended up having more fun with the game that I bought for my other friend’s young son.

It was a basketball hoop that one sucker, I mean person straps to their head.

I instantly thought I was getting ready for a challenge on Double Dare. Yall know you remember that show. Well I had a ball having small plastic balls pelted at my face and head and we all had a great laugh taking turns.

I got a chance to spread more encouragement to my sister, who really wanted a specific bag from Coach, but kept guilting herself out of it.

I gave her the pep talk of my life, convincing her there is nothing wrong with her having nice things because she works very hard and is an amazing wife and mother who puts everyone else first anyway.

I had to pull out the big guns and tell her a story about the day my mother decided to go ahead and make a luxury purchase of some high end shoes and how that has always stuck with me and was a fine example of a woman shutting up that voice, and treating herself for once.

My sister seemed a bit surprised, but I think the story empowered her to feel better about it. Not to mention, she ended up wanting the same bag I just treated myself to last week. LOL. So she sent the pic I sent her to her husband, and I’m pretty sure he’s going to get it done. He better… Before we even had this discussion, I had already bought her a Coach wallet for Christmas! So this was too funny and cute.

I spent time with another friend who I hadn’t seen in ages this weekend, with whom I was a spunky intern 10 years ago (she reminded me). Geez. It was refreshing to sit back, talk about life and then see the legendary Ellis Marsalis, yes, the daddy who blessed all of those Jazzy Marasalises with his ridiculous DNA.

We were in fact, the classy, professional, independent women we spent countless lunch breaks dreaming about becoming. We still don’t own major media companies just yet, and we don’t have to, but I’m proud of the women we’ve become and I love just exchanging encouraging words and big hugs with this brilliant woman.

So I leave you all with this. Love this song and I’m having a Whitney moment. I watched The Preacher’s Wife this weekend in honor of the holiday season. I love that movie. Here’s “Count on Me” featuring the fab CeCe Winans!

One more fun girlfriends song. “Girl.” By Destiny’s Chiren. I love the video’s nod to Sex and the City.

Calming Down: The Greatest Hits

I’m getting tense, and I shouldn’t be.

I’m a person who tries her best to work in complete faith, but sometimes my tendency to be a worrywart tends to undo my efforts.

So now,

I need to do the things I do to relax and gear up for big things.

Turn up the music and dance.

Sometimes I just turn up the music in my house and dance and do silly dances or full routines and pretend I’m Janet Jackson from the Pleasure Principle video.

She is so dope in this video.

More gospel music. I’ve already had my gospel inspiration playlist built on Spotify. It’s so real.

Pray. 

Watch movies that inspire me. I’ll be finding a way to watch “The Color Purple” “The Wiz” and “The Great Debaters.”

Get together with good friends. A plan is brewing for a game night with some of my local ladies. It may be a good look. Hungry, hungry, hippos has been requested. I do need a good round of Jenga and Connect Four in my life right now though, for real.

Go to Burlington Coat Factory to try on funny, huge, church lady hats. I look absurd and no matter how down I am, it makes me laugh. I mean I laugh a good hearty, laugh. (Speaking of laughing, did yall see my girl Liz Lemon finally get married on 30 Rock? Weird girls everywhere either cried or spewed grape drink out of their noses in delight. She’s not real, but I was happy for her like she was one of my friends. That’s another blog post altogether.) It’s probably even more funny that maybe one day as an old lady, I’ll actually think that stuff will be cute one day.

Create a new tee shirt design/do something for the business. The business has gone to the side since the new job hunt has been paramount and I’ve been residing in heavy like bubble with the new guy. Things are starting to cool down, and both of us are trying to resume normalcy. Working on the business always gives me a sense of purpose.

I’ve realized that I spend a lot of down time doing nothing or alone or shopping or eating.  I’ve got to regain some serious balance.

Read great writing. Already on that. Currently enjoying Junot Diaz’s “This Is How You Lose Her.” A great book to give a pimp in recovery.

Try something new.

Do something difficult.  I’ve scaled rock walls, swung from trapeze, parasailed and sang at the Kennedy Center with a super awesome choir. Every time I’ve done things I wasn’t sure I could do, I felt awesome when I did them.

Clay facemask and wine with special guest long bath. Back in my good ol reporter days, I stayed taking a bath to calm my nerves. The clay mask is the truth. It pulls out all the nastiness in my pores and makes me feel like a new woman.

Write a blog post.

Well, looks like I’ve at least taken care of that.

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